We live in a power trip world. A world where it feels as though every man is for himself, no matter the cost. We all want to believe we are always right…some go to great lengths to prove they are. But, at what expense? I’d like to talk a bit about how this behavior is detrimental to one’s self and to any relationships this personality has.
No one likes a know it all. It is difficult to befriend these types of people. The ones “who have it all together; who have an answer and a solution to everything; who are almost paralyzed in thought until they have proven themselves right to you, no matter who is present.” This personality repeats themselves repeatedly in the same conversations; argues as to why he/she is right; will utilize their resources and sometimes study and search until they have obtained the information they were looking for. They will then seek you out, and in a not so friendly manner present you their “facts” on why they are “right.” They typically interrupt conversations because they are not really listening but waiting to speak; completely disrespectful to those who were already engaged in conversation. They will tell you what to do, how to do it and sometimes how long it should take you to complete it. This personality appears knowledgeable, trustworthy and loving to the outside world.
On the receiving end of this personality…it’s taxing. Whether we are right or wrong, isn’t even part of the equation anymore. We have been belittled; disrespected; made to feel 2” tall; embarrassed; humiliated; saddened, which results in now the contemplation of whether to end the relationship. Because of the severity of this personality’s actions, it is unfruitful and bitter. Causing a wedge in the relationship. When we run into him/her, our immediate thought is: ugh! not again! Maybe I can hide and they won’t notice! Because you have already been the kind, considerate one who has overlooked the condescending remarks…so at this point in the relationship, your emotional attachment is no longer sweet but resentful. We want nothing to do with this personality anymore and would not suggest or encourage others to befriend them. All you can do is pray. Pray for this personality and leave it at the feet of the Lord.
Having said that, what do you do when it’s a family member or someone in whom you live with? Yikes! Hmmm…when you pray and pray and pray and have been honest with this personality and have shared how they make you feel…and they have no desire to change, because in their minds, they are not the problem because they do No Wrong…Life changing decisions will have to be made.
So I ask, At what cost do you think it’s ok to behave this way? Are you seriously the only one with thoughts and feelings? Are you so wrapped up in yourself that you can’t see past your own nose? And do you wish to be alone forever due to your “I’m always right” personality? What’s it going to take for you to recognize the need for change? The loss of a loved one? Friends? Family? Co-workers? Acquaintances?
Being Right…Doesn’t always make it Right.
No one likes a know it all. It is difficult to befriend these types of people. The ones “who have it all together; who have an answer and a solution to everything; who are almost paralyzed in thought until they have proven themselves right to you, no matter who is present.” This personality repeats themselves repeatedly in the same conversations; argues as to why he/she is right; will utilize their resources and sometimes study and search until they have obtained the information they were looking for. They will then seek you out, and in a not so friendly manner present you their “facts” on why they are “right.” They typically interrupt conversations because they are not really listening but waiting to speak; completely disrespectful to those who were already engaged in conversation. They will tell you what to do, how to do it and sometimes how long it should take you to complete it. This personality appears knowledgeable, trustworthy and loving to the outside world.
On the receiving end of this personality…it’s taxing. Whether we are right or wrong, isn’t even part of the equation anymore. We have been belittled; disrespected; made to feel 2” tall; embarrassed; humiliated; saddened, which results in now the contemplation of whether to end the relationship. Because of the severity of this personality’s actions, it is unfruitful and bitter. Causing a wedge in the relationship. When we run into him/her, our immediate thought is: ugh! not again! Maybe I can hide and they won’t notice! Because you have already been the kind, considerate one who has overlooked the condescending remarks…so at this point in the relationship, your emotional attachment is no longer sweet but resentful. We want nothing to do with this personality anymore and would not suggest or encourage others to befriend them. All you can do is pray. Pray for this personality and leave it at the feet of the Lord.
Having said that, what do you do when it’s a family member or someone in whom you live with? Yikes! Hmmm…when you pray and pray and pray and have been honest with this personality and have shared how they make you feel…and they have no desire to change, because in their minds, they are not the problem because they do No Wrong…Life changing decisions will have to be made.
So I ask, At what cost do you think it’s ok to behave this way? Are you seriously the only one with thoughts and feelings? Are you so wrapped up in yourself that you can’t see past your own nose? And do you wish to be alone forever due to your “I’m always right” personality? What’s it going to take for you to recognize the need for change? The loss of a loved one? Friends? Family? Co-workers? Acquaintances?
Being Right…Doesn’t always make it Right.
Comments
Post a Comment